In my ministry, I want men to experience the healing and freedom when you get real with yourself, with God, and with other men. That’s how we discover not only Whose we are, but the manhood we’re created for and the power to walk it out.
- Gordon Dalbey
Grandma Never Robbed a Bank:
Preparing Men for God's Women's Movement
Watch Gordon's YouTube interview about his new book with Mary at
It's not about who's right, but
what God's trying to teach you both.
Join bestselling author Gordon Dalbey and his wife Mary, a psychologist, on this pioneering adventure through the wilderness of marriage conflict into the blessing of maturing faith and growing love.
From sex and finances to in-laws and parenting, here's tell-it-like-it-is truth for those with ears to hear and show-it-like-it-can-be grace for those with hearts to believe.
So God created man in his own image.
male and female he created them. Gen. 1:27
Because God's image is reflected in man and woman united, the enemy of God wants to destroy marriages-by making partners think the other one is the enemy.
It's time to fight together!
-not against each other, but side-by-side
against your true, spiritual enemy.
So that you will know the hope to which he has called you, and how very great is his power at work in us who believe. Ephes. 1:15ff
Some years ago, after Healing the Masculine Soul led my trilogy of men’s books to become bestsellers, a friend was praying with me about my writing and he heard the words, “Give me a library.” I sensed that was the Father’s call to focus on what I believe are five major items on His agenda for these times.
Here are those five topics and my books which address them. All are available at http://store.abbafather.com/ in paperback plus several as audio readings by me (marked *) on cds and mp3 downloads. All ebooks at kindle.com.
Both refreshing and upending, Gordon Dalbey’s books for men take us to the depths of authentic manhood where we’re humbled by its mystery and engaged by its call. Apart from either violence or lust, these books restore both courage and passion to manhood. Here’s a masculinity you can trust—and the Father who makes it happen.
1. Healing men by revealing God as our Father:
Healing the Masculine Soul
*Sons of the Father: Healing the Father-Wound in Men Today
*Fight like a Man: A New Manhood for a New Warfare
*Do Pirates Wear Pajamas? and Other Mysteries in the Adventure of Fathering
Gordon Dalbey’s books will stir you to a faith both passionate about its truth and compassionate in its grace. Here’s freedom from the world’s universal tolerance on the one hand and narrow condemnation on the other—and God at work today in Jesus as His vital Third Option.
2. Facing the reality of spiritual warfare and His power to win it:
No Small Snakes: A Journey into Spiritual Warfare
Religion vs Reality: Facing the Home Front in Spiritual Warfare
3. Restoring His divided Church:
Broken by Religion, Healed by God:
Restoring the Evangelical, Sacramental, Pentecostal, Social Justice Church
4. Confronting the spirit of religion and His victory over it in Jesus:
Broken by Religion, Healed by God
Religion vs Reality
5. Confessing the spiritual essence of sexual desire and trusting Him to fulfill it:
* Pure Sex: The Spirituality of Desire
* Loving to Fight or Fighting to Love: Winning the Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage
* book reading available on cd/mp3
by Mary Dalbey
The REST of Your Life:
Finding God's Rest in a Driven, Demanding, Distressful World
"True rest comes not from your doing less, but from trusting God to do more.
It's not about what you don't do, but about what God does."
* "Sexual Bonding and a Woman's Heart" in Pure Sex: The Spirituality of Desire
* "For Better or Worse: Letting Go of Judgments" in Loving to Fight or Fighting to Love
"With Power and the Holy Spirit"
Part 1: Healing Emotional Wounds
Don't let your past hurts define you. Let Jesus show you His perspective and the truth will set you free. Healing stories of an insecure woman longing for Dad to bless her femininity, a self-destructive son whose alcoholic father shamed him, a man’s fear of women from being almost aborted.
Humble before the Father
Fierce before the enemy
Real before men
Conferences & Retreats
Not long ago,
I recently polled a conference of 300 men with this question, "When
you were growing up, did your father talk to you helpfully
about girls and sexuality?" Only 2 men raised their hands.
At another conference of 350 fathers, I asked, "When you
became a dad for the first time, did your own father come
alongside you with some help, encouragement, support, or advice - maybe
call you up, come visit you, or write you a letter?" Only
If you’re wondering why men’s sexuality is out of control
and why men feel inadequate as fathers, here’s where we start.
Not to judge or curse your father, but to face your wound
as every generation must, including your son’s. Then, to go
to Jesus for healing and see Dad as God sees him, to forgive
and honor him. Then, at last, to go to Father God to get what
no human father can give, and become the man you’re called
“A number of years ago, at a point in my own journey when I felt more lost than ever, I heard a talk given by Gordon Dalbey, who had just written Healing the Masculine Soul. He raised the idea that despite a man’s past and the failures of his own father to initiate him, God could take him on that journey to provide what was missing. A hope arose within me.” (John Eldredge, Wild at Heart, p. 102.)